Toxic positivity Posts

Welcome to part 2 of our series on how to spot a narcissistic system – this time via it’s patterns of tactics. From gaslighting, blame-shifting, triangulation and all the other famous mind games, to their less well-known cousins, like moving goalpos…

WEAPONIZED POSITIVITY Have you ever had a so-called friend... FIRE you? Have you ever been abandoned because your grief was 'too heavy' for their 'capacity'? Or because your collection of Grindcore CDs was deemed an indication of your “bad resonan…

Picture yourself in the late 1800s. You’ve been outcast by German society. You’ve been laughed at by academics and spurned by potential lovers. You are now miserable, broke, and ill, but still very, very THINKY. You are, in fact, working on another …

What if everything you were taught about your emotions was a lie?What if pain wasn’t a problem to be fixed?What if feeling deeply wasn’t a weakness — but a form of truth the world desperately needs?For decades, we’ve been sold a story: that the rati…

Control – as both an aspiration, obligation and contributor to loneliness In this post, we’re unpacking more core values embedded in Western capitalism, as part of the wider project of exposing what lies behind our loneliness. To remind you, these …

Hi. My name is Jordan, and I have a severe allergy to self-help gurus. I am not here to tell you to love yourself or think positively. I know that doesn’t work—because I spent decades grappling with that excruciating, bone-deep loneliness so many of…