Sara Ahmed Posts

Do you every feel like you’re surrounded by people who make you despair at humanity? Or, that somehow, despite an obviously increasing number of shitheads, people treat you strangely when you call them out?That feeling, of having an almost t…

Welcome to part 2 of our series on how to spot a narcissistic system – this time via it’s patterns of tactics. From gaslighting, blame-shifting, triangulation and all the other famous mind games, to their less well-known cousins, like mo…

Welcome dear reader. This is the first post in a 3 part series on how to recognize a narcissistic system—be that a workplace, an institution, a family, or even a social circle.Why talk about narcissistic systems on a blog on loneliness?Bec…

WEAPONIZED POSITIVITYHave you ever had a so-called friend... FIRE you?Have you ever been abandoned because your grief was 'too heavy' for their 'capacity'? Or because your collection of Grindcore CDs was deemed an indication of your “bad r…

Have you ever left a therapy session feeling worse than when you arrived? Have you ever felt like the therapist really wasn’t getting what was going on for you, or had somehow made you the whole problem?When that happens, it hurts. You …