Cognitive Primacy Posts

Do you every feel like you’re surrounded by people who make you despair at humanity? Or, that somehow, despite an obviously increasing number of shitheads, people treat you strangely when you call them out? That feeling, of having an almost total l…

Welcome to part 2 of our series on how to spot a narcissistic system – this time via it’s patterns of tactics. From gaslighting, blame-shifting, triangulation and all the other famous mind games, to their less well-known cousins, like moving goalpos…

Welcome dear reader. This is the first post in a 3 part series on how to recognize a narcissistic system—be that a workplace, an institution, a family, or even a social circle. Why talk about narcissistic systems on a blog on loneliness? Because i…

What if your therapist is using the same tactics as a narcissistic parent — and calling it treatment? What if therapy is teaching you to keep your hands burning on a hot plate, and alter your reaction to the fact that you are burning? Today, we're …

What if everything you were taught about your emotions was a lie?What if pain wasn’t a problem to be fixed?What if feeling deeply wasn’t a weakness — but a form of truth the world desperately needs?For decades, we’ve been sold a story: that the rati…

Control – as both an aspiration, obligation and contributor to loneliness In this post, we’re unpacking more core values embedded in Western capitalism, as part of the wider project of exposing what lies behind our loneliness. To remind you, these …